January 30, 2008

  • Dear Annie

    I lifted this from pukemeister

    s site.  I thought it was much more important than my rant on Rudy and needed to be seen by as many eyes as possible.

    I sure hope this kid doesn't kill himself:

    Annie's Mailbox®, January 28

    Dear Annie: I'm a 15-year-old boy and have been best friends with
    "Alex" since we were 5. Last year, Alex told me he thought he might
    be gay. He said he really liked this other boy we know and made me swear never
    to tell anyone. But a month ago, Alex got caught after school kissing that guy
    he liked, and the school called his parents. They grounded him.

    My dad told me I'm not allowed to be friends with Alex anymore,
    but I don't think that's fair. Alex hasn't changed. He's still the same guy
    I've always been friends with, the one I played soccer and video games with. I
    tried talking to my dad, but he won't listen. Now I've been grounded because, a
    week ago, I snuck over to Alex's to play video games. I heard my dad yelling at
    my stepmom that I'd "better not be gay." I'm not allowed to call him
    and my cell phone has been taken away.

    Annie, I know I'm not gay, but does that mean I can't be friends
    with Alex? I called my mom and she said she'd try to talk to Dad for me, but it
    hasn't helped yet. I feel bad for Alex. I call him when my parents aren't home,
    but every time, he cries and says he wishes he could take it back. I hate that.
    I know if it were me, he'd try to help. My dad said if I keep sneaking out to
    see Alex, he's going to send me to live with my uncle. He may not even have to,
    because I heard Alex's parents are sending him to live with some relatives in Ohio.

    I don't know how to get my dad to change his mind. He says I'm
    young and will make more "normal" friends. But Alex is my best friend
    and I know you don't get a lot of those. Is Dad right? — Confused in California

    Dear Confused: It's too bad your father isn't more tolerant and
    accepting. Being gay is not contagious, nor is it a reason to turn your back on
    a friend. Contact PFLAG (pflag.org) and ask if there's anything you can do.

    Perhaps if your father had a better understanding of the
    situation, he might be less afraid of having Alex around. It's worth a try.

Comments (5)

  • Dear Orlando,

    I can't believe he's writing from California. I'm quite sure he doesn't live in West Hollywood. Reminds me of my friendship with Keith in the 70s, when we were in our 20s. Keith was one of my dealers and a real nice guy. But he never talked about chicks like the rest of the gang. I hung out with a lot of musicians in those days, and Keith was "seeing" another guy I knew who played in a band. I never made the connection. (We were stoned most of the time in those days.)

    Once while Keith and I were partying at my place, after more prodding, he confessed his sexual orientation. I was surprised, but not shocked at all. In fact, later on, I would go with him to the gay baths in Long Beach where he got most of his 'stuff". I signed up for membership in the baths, which I always described as being the most sexually atmospheric place I 'd ever seen without a woman anywhere to be seen. (This was pre-AIDS, BTW) When I came home from the baths the first time, I waved my membership card in my roomie's face and proclaimed "I'm a card carrying queer!"

    I couldn't help but check out the other answers for the featured question involving the unicorn, fairies, and cigarettes. I like the answer where someone said that if you're smoking the right cigarettes you'll be able to see the fairies and the unicorns.

     Michael F. Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool

  • thanks - peace, Al

  • acceptance is the answer...

  • Rudy who??

    And in a way, the kis IS a bit dead....

  • I read this the other day in the paper, and it reminds me of a conversation I had with one of my older brothers. I asked him a hypothetical question about if one of his sons admitted that he was gay. The response was much like the one you'd get by walking into a biker bar and telling the biggest meanest baddest biker in the place that you just took a shit in his bike's gas tank, killed his dog and fucked his favorite squeeze.

    I hate intolerant homophobic bastards (my brother is one) and I really feel bad for this kid. The sooner he gets away from his Dad the better his life will be.

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